Asking for help without fear of the label

You're not alone in this

Parents often worry that a diagnosis will follow their child, that teachers will see them differently, that family won't understand, or that their child will feel broken. These worries come from love. Below are the questions parents ask most.

What an accommodation is, and isn't

• Is: a change in how your child learns or is tested, like extra time or a quiet space.
• Isn't: a lower standard, a separate class, or a sign that your child can't do the work.
• Your child can help choose supports that don't make them stand out.

Who sees school records

• In general, school records are private. Staff who work with your child can see what they need to support them.
• Sharing outside the school usually needs your consent, with limited legal exceptions.
• You can ask the school what goes in the file, who can see it, and how long it is kept.
• You can choose what to share from a private assessment. Ask what the school actually needs.

Official information: BC permanent student record · Ontario Student Record (OSR) guideline · Ontario Privacy Commissioner: school records · Alberta Student Record Regulation

Talking with your child about their brain

• Keep it short, honest and suited to their age.
• "Your brain works in its own way. Some things are harder, some things are easier."
• Say what it isn't: not their fault, not a punishment, not who they are.
• Ask what they want friends or teachers to know. Older kids and teens can lead.
• Come back to it. One talk is a start, not the end.

Handling family opinions

• You decide who to tell, and when. Start with people who are open and kind.
• You can talk about needs without naming a diagnosis: "She does better with a heads-up before changes."
• Have one short line ready: "We're working with her school and doctor. Thanks for supporting her."
• Share a trusted source if someone wants to learn: CADDAC.

About medication

Questions about medication are decisions to make with your child's doctor. For public information, see CADDAC or CADDRA. This site does not give medical advice.

Next steps

• Getting school accommodations in Canada
• Talking to your child's teacher
• All parent resources