Your own ADHD as a parent
Many parents learn about their own ADHD after their child is diagnosed. Support for you helps the whole family.
Try this first
A 3-step starter
- 1
Go easy on yourself
Parenting with ADHD is a lot. You don't have to do it all.
- 2
Simplify the systems
Shared calendars and visible routines help parents too.
- 3
Get your own support
Our adult directory has tools and coaching for you.
Tools for adults with ADHD
Planners, timers, coaching and more, sorted by the problem they solve.
Tools and resources
Getting It Done With ADHD (book)
Books2nd edition, 2022
Feeling Loved with ADHD (book)
BooksBook
How to Keep House While Drowning (KC Davis book)
BooksKC Davis's short book on treating household chores as care tasks rather than moral failings
Good Inside (Becky Kennedy)
For parentsMembership app and workshops on emotion-focused parenting; has content on deeply feeling kids
CHADD Parent to Parent
For parentsStructured online course for parents and caregivers from the US national ADHD nonprofit
Understood.org
For parentsLarge free library incl. IEP explainers and parent ADHD content; US law framing
Tilt Parenting podcast
For parentsLong-running podcast and community for parents of neurodivergent kids
Scattered Minds (Gabor Maté)
BooksBook
Driven to Distraction (Hallowell & Ratey, revised edition)
BooksA classic, story-led introduction to adult ADHD, updated in the revised edition.
ADD-Friendly Ways to Organize Your Life (Kolberg & Nadeau, 2nd edition)
BooksBook
Wherever You Go, There You Are (Jon Kabat-Zinn)
BooksNot ADHD-specific. A gentle mindfulness book in very short chapters you can read one at a time.
The Gap and the Gain (Sullivan & Hardy)
BooksA mindset book about measuring progress from where you started, not from where you think you should be.
Boundary Boss (Terri Cole)
BooksScripts and steps for saying what you need and stopping people-pleasing.
Loving Someone with Attention Deficit Disorder (Susan Tschudi)
BooksBook
Loving Bravely (Alexandra Solomon)
BooksTwenty short lessons on understanding your own patterns in relationships.
Why Won't You Apologize? (Harriet Lerner)
BooksOn apologising well, and on what to do when someone won't. Short and readable.
This site does not diagnose ADHD or give medical advice.